How To Quickly Change Your Life For The Better
How to quickly change your life for the better? How to adopt consistent habits to make your life better? What do you need to know to make your life better than it is today?
Small changes, consistently made over time, make the biggest difference in your life.
There is almost nothing that you can’t be, do, or have if you’re willing to be patient and to do the little things, every day, that will eventually compound.
Every “overnight success” story is usually the result of years of dedicated, deliberate, incremental effort.
ImportantAny significant, enduring, impactful life change is the result of tiny decisions that a person makes every day to set themselves up for success in the long run.
The reality is that changing your life starts with changing the way you see everything in your life.
WarningActually, when most people set out to change their lives, they often focus on all the external stuff, like a new job or a new location or new friends.
Changing your life for the better is about YOU.
I mean the details of your life, your specific environment, your goals and aspirations, and your motivation to continue to strive for a fulfilled and healthy life.
Changing your life for the better is always a process and not a simple fix.
What is in your control is your attitude, perspective, resilience, emotional health, and how you choose to react to any situation life throws at you.
Remember: baby steps lead to quantum leaps!
Are you considering making a huge shift? Are you ready to find, follow, or commit to YOUR path? Here are a few pieces of advice to get you started and change your life for the better.
Seize The Day
What lights you up? What are your strengths? What makes you unique? What are you passionate about?
ImportantYou were born with a unique soul essence and there will never again be anyone like you. You were born for a reason. Discover who you are.
Be aware that the motivation to do anything — like change your entire life around — doesn’t just come from some magical, mystical place within you.
Action is both the effect of motivation and the cause of it. You’ll figure out whether or not it’s right or not in good time, but only if you stop procrastinating and start engaging with the world.
Many of us tend to think that the grass is greener on the other side. Often, we get to the other side of the fence we find that this is not so.
The motivation to change our lives comes from our desire to be happy. We are often so busy focusing on our pursuit of happiness that we miss the joy of actually living in the moment.
Our desire to have happiness in our lives is a desire of a future state not of the present.
WarningWe become so consumed with all our problems and discontent in the present we miss the precious beauty of the moment.
A lot of people get stuck when they try to to change their lives because they don’t know “where to start” or “what to do.” The simple answer is to do something — anything, really.
Practicing mindfulness is like regularly putting small amounts of change in a jar.
ImportantThey will all add up over time. And this will add up to greater peace and happiness.
With mindfulness, we calm our mind and emotions so we can see clearer.
Then much of our understanding will come from simply observation. When we develop mindfulness, we literally expand our awareness.
Pick Your Battles
Creating a personal mission statement gives you clarity and provides a motto you can integrate into your day-to-day life, even when you feel as if you want to give up.
This personal constitution will help you to find a new drive in life. Some things are worth fighting for and others just simply aren’t.
Identify your value — what you bring to the table –, your goal, and the why.
ImportantWrite down your mission statement as a goal for your future self. Each day, going forward, ask yourself if what you’re doing helps you reach your goals.
Most people write bucket lists, but the problem is they are often a random and disjointed collection of ideas.
Ideas that don’t actually bring you any closer to living a more rich and satisfying life on a daily basis.
That’s why you need to get crystal clear on your values.
And map out a vision for what you want your actual life to look like on a daily basis. Otherwise you will get back from your bucket-list holiday to Tahiti and still feel empty.
Expect your mission statement to change throughout your lifetime as you change certain aspects of your life such as your career, your interests, and your skills.
Spend some time trying to sort out what is important in your life and why it is important.
What is it that you want to achieve in your life? What are your dreams? What makes your happy?
Your meaning in life gives you purpose and sets the direction of how you want to live your life.
WarningWithout meaning you will spend the rest of your life wandering through life aimlessly with no direction, focus, or purpose.
Once you have your mission statement, the fog lifts and your road map starts to become clear again.
But, nobody is going to drive the car for you — you’ve got to put in the work to achieve your goals and change your own life.
Be The CEO of Your Life
It is acting on goals that enable you to achieve your dreams.
Once you know what is important in your life and what your dream life looks like for you, you need to take action and set your long-term, medium, and short-term goals.
But a goal without a plan is just a dream. It’s not a way to change your life.
ImportantLives aren’t changed by wishes alone. A vivid imagination married to a wicked will is the only way to mold reality into whatever you desire it to be.
Are you committed to doing something to make sure that next year this time, things are different?
This is the most important part of making change. The only thing the decision requires is a relinquishment of the old ways.
Remember your goals may change. Always be flexible with setting and achieving your goals as things in life change and your goals need to reflect these changes. It’s the small steps that you take that create the momentum for change to happen in your life.
No one gives a shit. You are free to do whatever the hell you want and no one will care if you fail spectacularly.
WarningSo instead of basing all your life decisions on what others think of you, figure out exactly what it is you value most in your life and cut all the other bullshit out.
The only person who is going to create change in your life is YOU and only YOU!
ImportantFind your courage, love yourself and step out and do something crazy. In your heart if it feels right, act on it and go create the life you love.
As long as you are breathing, people will judge you.
If you take what other people think of you personally, you will be offended for the rest of your life. Accept it.
Avoid Toxic People
You can improve your life just by changing the people you surround yourself with.
If there are some who have brought negativity or hurt into your life, accept that those actions cannot be changed or undone or forgotten — only forgiven.
Consistency of behavior can be a clue in picking reliable friends.
ImportantSurround yourself with people who support you, guide you and make you better than you already are.
The frenemy is a person who seems like a friend, but is not.
WarningThey will often act like a friend. But their desire to help is not based upon altruism, rather, they derive a sense of self-worth and often superiority from assisting others who are worse off.
Toxic people can spread unhappiness and personal suffering. They ultimately poison things with which they come in touch: other people, careers, businesses. These people are often virtually immune to insight, remorse, or lasting positive change.
By seeking true friendships, you will avoid the toxic.
ImportantFriendship is based upon mutual trust, fidelity, kindness, loyalty and upon being of assistance when needed.
To maintain your resilience and cope with any sadness, stay in close contact with those who make you feel safe, cherished and happy.
These are the people who will model healthy friendships and relationships, reminding you exactly why you are choosing to sever toxic ones.
Become Self Aware
Simple question: do you really know who you are? Do you know what drives you, what terrifies you, why you do the things you do?
ImportantSelf-awareness is, somewhat paradoxically, in short supply these days. But there’s really no way to change your life if you don’t know what you’re changing about yourself in the first place.
There are things you can do to boost your sense of self-worth .
And ensure that you value yourself like you ought to be valued — as a full, complete, and wonderful human being that is deserving of love and respect, no matter what.
Work on identifying, challenging, and externalizing your critical inner voice.
WarningWe all have an inner critic that loves to nitpick and point out our flaws. It’s natural to let this inner critic get the best of us sometimes, but if we let her win too often she starts to think that she’s right!
Once you understand, accept, and love yourself, you will reach a point where you no longer depend on people, accomplishments, or other external factors for your self-worth. Unleash the giant within!
Once you have a better idea of who you are, the next step is to enhance your acceptance of yourself.
ImportantThink of any struggles, needs for improvement, mistakes, and bad habits you have, and commit to forgiving yourself and accepting yourself without judgment or excuses.
Now that you have worked on accepting yourself for who you are, you can begin to build love and care for yourself.
To boost self-love, start paying attention to the tone you use with yourself. Commit to being more positive and uplifting when talking to yourself.
Go Out And Get Busy
If you want to change your life, learn to master your fears so they can’t control you any longer.
It’s easy to ignore our fears and hope that they will go away. Unfortunately, it does not work like that.
Our fears are only thoughts in our minds that are not real but over time we have become to believe that they are true.
ImportantIt is our fears in life that stop us from living our life to the fullest. We know when our fears are controlling our lives because we feel discontent, dissatisfied and unfulfilled.
Regardless of our hesitation or fear, humans need change to be happy.
Try to do something you’ve never done every single day. Don’t be afraid to try new things and stand in your discomfort zone.
If you want something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.
WarningThe most life-changing experiences will happen when you get out of your comfort zone. It’s only when you face your fears that you can overcome the roadblocks on your path to personal growth.
If you can learn to suffer a little more than the average person, you can have a lot more than the average life. Things of value tend to be difficult to attain, and things that are difficult to attain require suffering. No pain, no gain!
The fact is our relative ease of life has made people allergic to the idea of being uncomfortable.
However, if you want to improve your position in life, then you have to embrace doing the hard things. People will exert more energy avoiding hard work that will make them better than the actual work demands.
Sadly, modernity has made us so averse to discomfort.
WarningBut you need to realize that it is way more painful to stay stuck than to deal with the pain or fear of going on a journey of self-discovery and taking baby steps towards your dreams.
Being stuck in the wrong life feels like wearing an itchy and uncomfortable sweater 365 days a year.
How to start changing your life is learning to love the little intricacies that make it yours.
ImportantEnjoy the ride as you navigate your way over obstacles and find success. While this process will be difficult, don’t discount it as a chore!
Use your patience when necessary, forgiveness when you feel wronged, and to go with the flow.
You will find when you employ this kind of jovial perspective on life — things seem to fall into place more often.
You’re never “stuck” doing one thing forever. You can do whatever the hell you want.
ImportantSo if your vision no longer aligns with your values, who you’ve become, or what you enjoy, then PIVOT.
Don’t get so focused on the process that you lose sight of what YOU want and most important…having fun.
People will say you’ve changed. You may no longer have anything in common with your past.
That’s ok because you made the decision. The decision to change your life. A decision most will never make.
Looking forward to seeing what your transformation looks like in a couple of months from now. Let me know in the comments below how you plan to change radically your life for the better!